The Homemaking Ministry Part 1

The Homemaking Ministry Part 1

Growing up I had always thought being a wife and caring for a home is very simple that it comes naturally to a woman. So after I got married over five years back I laid back and expected things to just fall in place. That is just how naive I was. Today I know that homemaking is a full time job and that it requires one’s full attention and energy. Homemaking is a ministry for every woman and wife, one that if neglected can ruin the lives of the family members involved.

So, in this blog post I share just how much i learnt about home making and the qualities I had to cultivate to successfully run my home.

I count it a privilege that as a woman I have a  home and family and I know that it is a blessing from God, so I look up to Him daily for strength and wisdom because over the years I have learned that I can not do anything without His help.

Proverbs 24:3-4 says wisdom builds your home, understanding establishes it, and “by knowledge the rooms are filled” with “precious and pleasant riches.” You gain wisdom, understanding, and knowledge by reading and studying the Word of God

A home is more than just the building where you and your family lives. It is also the atmosphere or feeling that your family member carry everywhere. That emotion that makes them to look forward to getting back to the house. God entrusted women with duties of making a home and caring for the family. I believe He has deposited something in women that qualifies the to carry this beautiful responsibility.

Proverbs 31:27 says a godly wife “watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” She’s a dedicated and hardworking woman who tends her garden with care. A modern Christian wife follows in her footsteps. 

How a home is run can either make or break the people in it. This means that it takes deliberate action towards executing everything that will help you to effortlessly run your home. There will be challenges here and there but it will all fall  into place as long as you do things according to how the word of God says. God never fails remember?

Here are a few tips that help me and I believe they will also help you in your Homemaking ministry..

Love what you do

  • Firstly, you need to fall in love with everything that comes as a responsibility for you. Accept the things that you have to do without comparing yourself with another person or your spouse. Fall in love with cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids if that is what you have to do. Once you Love what you do, then you will see that it is now enjoyable when doing it and it will bring joy to you when you accomplish those duties.

Pay attention

  • Paying attention to your home is and family members is a very vital quality. if exercised daily it can save you a lot of time and energy. There are so many distractions around us and most women and wive work full time jobs, but we still have to try our best to focus on the happenings around our homes. Paying attention includes listening without interpreting, showing interest in every conversation or play, noticing the smallest changes in the house or with the kids behavior, being present when your spouse needs your help, knowing where to find things around the house, the list is long, but I supposed you get the idea.

Manage time well

  • Time management is a bit of a challenge especially since most women have jobs. It is still important that we manage our time well and have a schedule for some of the things done in the home. Remember that what we do in the home also contributes to the molding of our children. create time for playing with the kids and create time for your spouse as well and everybody should know just how to respect each other’s time.

Put your foot down, but kill the fun

  • Every family has a set of rules that every member has to abide by. have a set of rules that will help you run the home and do not compromise easily. Let the other members help you with some chores, have the kids sleep at the same time on weekdays for example, anything that works for all of you. the rules have to be respected.

Be Hospitable 

  • Hospitality is very crucial for every woman and wife. A home is supposed to be welcoming to visitors. How you receive and treat  people in your home says a lot about your family.  Its a skill that the whole family needs to lean intensively because children can embarrass you in the presence of visitors so they need to be let in on what exactly they are supposed to do when visitors come in.

Be clean Always

  •  It is said that cleanliness is next to Godliness! A clean home is very attractive and safe but an unkept home is unsafe and emanates negative energy. Learn to keep things in order and get rid of staff that you do not use or need-that is, avoid clutter! teach your children to stay clean as well. 

Be spontaneous and keep learning

  •  There is a lot that is involve in homemaking and it is a personal responsibility for every woman to make time for learning new things all the time. Learn new recipes, new games, home decorations just to mention a few. Stay unpredictable and you will see just how you become the number one mother and wife

Hope these will help you track where you are. there is a lot to it I just can not put it all in one post. Thank you for reading. 

In my next blog post o will write on the different areas that need your attention in the home as a homemaker. look out for it

 

Love Amede

You are Good Enough

You are Good Enough

In today’s world most people are struggling to find their passion. Because of high rates of unemployment most people take jobs that do not match their passion just so they can put a meal on the table and have a shelter over their heads. People are so misplaced and as a result they are stressed and even depressed because they do not get peace and joy from what they do daily. Many do not just have the motivation to even try to follow their dreams. the world is so full of competition right!

Have you ever been discouraged and thought you were not good enough at doing something that you were talented at?

Most people have quit at trying to be the best that they can because they believe they are not good enough. well the question is;

You are not good enough in comparison to who?

The truth is you will never be as good as anybody simply because you are not them! You can never be good at anything the way other people are. You are unique and no body could ever copy you a hundred percent even if they tried!

Over the past few years I felt so discouraged and did not see the point of me pursuing my dreams. I compared myself to others a lot and felt people would reject what i had to offer. Guess what? After putting a lot of effort into developing myself in the area of my talent I realised that i naturally attract people that need my help and everything just flows effortlessly. It give me pleasure to see the little improvements I make daily.

You might even be thinking no one will take you serious! well those are the thoughts that pull you backwards. Start by believing in who you are and what you want to offer the world! think it and speak it. Live life as if you have already reached your goals. Learn to take small steps daily and see just how much you can accomplish.

Remember, even at your very best, you can never be as good as anyone but yourself!

Love Amede

Behind the MASK!

Behind the MASK!

One way or the other most of us are facing fear – We are afraid of being seen for who we truly are. We are Afraid of seeing ourselves for who we really are. We are Afraid of confronting our limiting beliefs, and we avoid facing fear by hiding!

Proverbs 13:7
There is one who pretends to be rich, but has nothing; Another pretends to be poor, but has great wealth.

In the quest to prevent our true inner self from being seen, we wear a symbolic or metaphorical mask over our authentic personality in the hope that we will remain hidden. Behind it there is confusion, fear and loneliness. But we hide this. We don’t want anyone to know it. We panic that our weakness and fear will be exposed.

That is why we sometimes create a mask behind which to hide. An indifferent and sophisticated facade that helps us to pretend. It serves as a shield before a knowing eye. As long as it makes us feel accepted and loved. That we are someone, that we are worthy.

Why do we put on a mask?

Fear and doubt
It is fear and doubt that creates the mask, and fear which keeps it in place. What we miss is that the mask hides our true and most beautiful self from both ourselves and from the world. It prevents us from becoming our best potential.

In order to find our authentic self we must align ourselves with the word of God and face fear by digging down to the deepest, most hidden part of ourselves, that fearful place where we dread what we think is hidden.

2 Timothy 1:7

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

When we dig deeply enough into our hidden nature we find not darkness but light and the realization that our safety lies in actually letting down the mask and being seen in being our true selves.

Are you hiding behind a mask? Would you be surprised if I told you that most people are not being who they truly are and that, in fact, we are trained or influenced by many factors from a very early age to move away from our true selves.

Growing up, we are taught by other people or the society on how to behave, how to think, what to believe and who to be. We are given direct or indirect messages that if we behave in certain ways this and that will happen. That we are not good enough. And that certain behaviors, emotions and ways of thinking are bad. Forever trying to please!

Because of this early conditioning, some people create masks so that they can belong and feel as if they fit in. They want to gain the approval and acceptance of others. Many people fall so fully into living behind their masks that they never have the opportunity to experience the richness of who they really are. Very sad!

I am certainly no exception to the rule. I grew up with so many misleading negative believes and perceptions. This influenced the courses I chose at school, the people I hanged with, the visions I had about my future, the relationships I entered into and so on. This was the role I played so that I would be accepted!

This same problem exists for so many others. I see people every day that are trapped behind a mask that they have created. Many are stuck in bad jobs or relationships and have given up hope that they can ever have the life that they truly want.

Are you worried that this may be you?

-Do you feel like you are living a lie?

-You are persuing a job or are you in a relationship that you know isn’t right for you?

-Have you dealt with depression or anxiety?

-How often do you experience pure joy?

-Do You find yourself jealous or envying others?

If you are familiar with any of these qualities, the good news is that it is YOU who can absolutely break out from behind the mask. You can erase all the false and negative perceptions you have about life and replace them with positive goals and visions. You can uncover God’s promises over your life and live a fulfilled life. Once you begin being true to you, then you will find that you will be able to create the life that you’ve longed for…intentionally!

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Love Amede