Death By Pride

You have brought down kings and brought shame to the queen’s palace. Thrones have been shaken and kingdoms destroyed.

You have seperated the strongest bonds and severed the deepest relations. You are heartless! The mighty cannot escape from you!

For a moment you seem right, you seem true but only poison springs from your wells. You deceive the elect!

You are silent and deadly, you seperate people from their God. Even God resists the ones that entertain you. He cannot be in the same place with you! No!

Your aim is pure destruction, without mercy you scatter the works of love. I have seen your works, I have tasted the bitterness of your friendship, I quit!

Where you pass only Ashes and broken hearts remain. Your sting is stronger than that of a serpent.

What medicine must I take to sooth the pains of your touch? How must I separate myself from you?

By the Sword I will separate myself from you. By the Word that is ever true. I will hold on to humility and I will uphold my maker forever. My heart will I guard forever!

Love will take your place in my heart. It will brake that seemingly strong bond. I will die to myself, yes! and arise in Christ! Grace is sufficient!

Never again will I hold on to vanity! I quit.

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Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
Proverbs 16:18

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
Proverbs 11:2

An intense preoccupation with the self is an indication of the presence of pride. When everything seems to revolve around you. “ME, MYSELF AND I”.

Pride clouds judgment. It births lies and God resists such people because they feel they do not need anyone and that anyone includes God. For those who feel that they need God in their lives there is humility where they highly esteem God and esteem others as well.

It because of pride that Lucifer lost his place in heaven. Eve also because of pride, ate the forbidden fruit and she and her husband were led away from the garden of Eden. They both fell from grace and there was a separation between them and God.
James 4:6 says that “God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

More often we let pride creep in our relationships and our marriages. Love and pride cannot be in one place. The presence of love purely means the absence of pride.

Because of pride one can never find it easy to admit to their wrong let alone apologies. It destroys relationships.
Today, if you will humble yourself before God, He will exalt you. Choose now to humble yourself before the mighty hand of God because there is wisdom in true humility and people tend to gravitate toward humble people. So too does God.

P.S 😍

Love Amede

I Beg To Differ

As much as it appalling to see the pressures that society has on humanity especially the children of God, it is more flabbergasting to see just how easy it is for us to simply conform. The ability for us to defend what we believe in and who we are has plunged to the ground. It has become the norm that we please people around us more than act on the word of God and hold on to its decrees.

The word of God has everything that we would want to know. It covers every erea of our lives from finances, parenting, marriage, work, just to name a few, but more often than not we chose to follow what the masses are doing. We do a Google search more than we open the bible on that issue. We consult a friend and social media and trust their word until we fail miserably then we trace our steps back to the Word. Back to squre one.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:2

God undeniably knew the dangers here. He had to. He is all knowing. He knew just how being compliant to the desires of the world would be harmful for us. We cannot be in compliance with the world and with God at the same time. We can only serve one master. At any given point you conform to the desires of the world, you are at that time not connected to the word of God.

“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
Matthew 6:24

I have been the biggest victim here. Going places I should not be going even though I knew I might end up doing what I am not supposed to do. Buying some things that I thought I needed at the expense of my tithes just to fit in. Then the devourer would extinguish the little that I have left. This list is extensive. I am sure all of us can put down a few things that we did or are still doing that the word of God has cautioned us against. Knowing the truth is always binding because our conscience will remind us of what is right and whst is wrong . God himself said He can not tempt us with what we can not come out of.

Today is the time to go back to His word- the master plan for our lives. Draw out of it the verdicts for every are of your life. Ask Him for the strength to follow his decrees. He is a present help in times of trouble.

Beg to differ! Do not be ashamed of choosing wisdom. It is profitable to direct. Be the odd one out if means anything. Let God be true and all men liars.

P.S

Love Amede

How I grieved my new born baby

He would be 3 Today! I have not talked publicly about this until today! This day marks his third birthday and I am more at peace today than in the first year of his passing . Time really heals. Nonetheless, I can’t help but imagine how big he would be today and how my life would have been with him around.

March 30th 2015 I lost my precious baby boy, Jediel– the name I never got to call him. It broke my heart to think I had a healthy pregnancy and I lost him due to the carelessness of the nurses at the clinic. I was just left numb and confused. Nothing made sense to me at all. My family and friends were there for me. Church mates were there for me, they encouraged me. For the first weeks and perhaps months, everybody’s words were just bouncing off my ears.

I needed someone to blame. The nurses more than ever yes! But I felt I needed more. A part of me blamed God! The only God I had to run to for comfort. There were so many unanswered questions in my mind I was in a battlefield. I embarked on a journey to find answers in the word of God, I needed to understand what he really says about death, about children dying. I searched for articles on the Internet in order for me to understand more, to know where my baby was. I clang to this for weeks, but it left me even confused because of my approach to it.

Now, because I could not find the answers I wanted I began to withdraw myself from the only thing that could have held me together- God. Only to find comfort in the things that would eventually destroy me. I suffered from panic attacks especially on his first birthday. It was then I realised that I needed to rise. I knew what I had to do. I had to trace myself back to God. The only one who knows more than I do. I went back to His word. This time with an open mind, ready to be comforted by Him. He did not fail me! He never does!

The word of God is true, it is deep and needs understanding when one searches through it. With human understanding one can never unravel its mysteries.

God Himself is mystery. He always makes a way out! He speaks all the time, we just stop listening at times. His love and mercies endures forever!

P.S

Love Amede

ABSENT FATHERS

Ephesians 6:4 (ESV)
-Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

It is Gods original plan that a family must consist of a father, a mother and THEIR children. God instituted marriage and wants children to be born in a marital home. A successful home gives rise to a successful community and nation. God is all knowing, and He knew that in this framework of a mother, father and their children, there would definitely be some sort of balance. But, in this era we live in, especially in our country, we find ourselves in sad situations. Today’s generation is literally a fatherless generation. It has become the norm. As such the original framework of a family has been stripped away. It is definitely the devils number one weapon to break the family because in doing so he has managed to break the community and the nation respectively. Women raise children on their own, in fact, most children are born to teenagers who do not have the capability to raise and provide for their children. Moreover, our r women go into marriage with a child or children from previous relationships, they have evolved into playing the role of the father; something that they were not created for. Today’s children lack the bond of a father, the love of a father and the discipline of a father. No wonder our children are so adrift. They grow up to be aimless fathers too.
I must say, I salute fathers out there who have not abandoned their role. Fathers who have fulfilled and honored God’s plan for a family. Those that have soberly carried out their responsibilities as fathers. And secondly I salute the so called step fathers. Men who have taken upon their shoulders, the duty that another man failed. Men who have opened their arms to care for children who are not theirs.
Ephesians 6:4(b) but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Above and beyond providing and protecting, fathers are given a role to discipline and instruct their children. God must have instilled something in them for Him to give them this instruction. So what really then happens to all children who are single handedly raised by their mothers? Children who grow up without the first hand instruction and discipline of their fathers? Single mothers have now become the providers, the caretakers and they also have to do the disciplining. But we have to ask ourselves if it is really effective. I will also add that, there are women out there who have raise well-mannered and responsible children. They have gone to great lengths to train and raise these children well.
Personally I grew up under the care of my mother. She singles handedly raised me and my brothers the best way she could. Unfortunately, the time I decided I want to go on a search for my father he had passed away. I never got to see him, never had a relationship with him. When my mother got married I was over 17 years and I was a teen mom raising a child with her.
At that time, I was clueless how a father is to be handled, how to respect him and how to answer to him. It definitely was strange; his ways were strange. He was the intruder. I guess this is how most children who grew up without a father would feel. And in most cases, no body prepares you for it. You just have to accept it and live on. It is not supposed to be so. As a young woman I had to bring myself to the terms that I also am going to raise a child by myself and be married to a man who is not his biological father. And when I finally got married, my son must have also seen this mans ways as strange. I have seen it here and there. In this situation the discipline of the step father is rejected. There is a missing link, no instant bond. The friction may take a while but eventually things fall into place with patience, prayer and understanding the obstacles can be overcome. And for single mothers who do not end up getting married, it becomes a vicious cycle. They raise children who never get a fatherhood experience. The children also grow up to be clueless fathers. They do not have any training and cannot effectively train their own children!

The proverbs of Solomon are full of encouragement to the son; that they should not despise a fathers rebuke and instruction. Both the natural father and god; our spiritual father. The bible actually states that following the teachings of the Father will prolong our lives. So there is preservation of life for those who follow the instruction of their fathers.
Fathers were also once sons. They have learnt from their fathers and are simply to transfer that knowledge and wisdom to us as children. Proverbs 4:1-27 is one of the powerful heartfelt scriptures that demonstrates a fathers instruction to a son. Note her that son does not necessarily mean the boy child. Son here also include the girl child.

Truly something has to be done. Our Nation is raising unstable leaders. We have to retrace our steps back to God. Back to the way He wanted things to be. I thank God because he gave me a husband who fears him. A husband who was raised by a father that also fears God. Though challenges arise, one way or the other we always find a balance in God.
However, this is not the case with many people. We have surely derailed from the plan of God and He is the only one who can show us the sure way. God can help us save the upcoming generations. The cycle has to break and we have to embrace a way that does not fail. This way is the way of God. God does not fail.

P.S

Love Amede

Grateful for love

Entry #1- expectations Vs Reality

Its almost five years since I got married to my husband. I must say, it has been the most significant time of my life. As I ponder on my experience in this blissful covenant so far, I am more thankful to God for sustaining us and leading us on a daily basis. He really is the third chord in this union. Even though at times we go ahead of Him or derail from His word, He has always been ready to take us back on track upon repentance.

I now have come to appreciate that when I got into this covenant, I had some expectations that have not surfaced even up to today. Expectations about life, expectations about my spouse and about myself as well(some being very unrealistic expectations). Reality struck me in so many areas of my life. I saw myself fail on areas that I had initially thought I would sail though. I got disappointed here and there. I wished I could change somethings about me, and my husband.

The big lesson for me was realising that I could not do anything out of God’s word and still maintain peace. I need his strength every day. He has a plan bigger than my own expectations. He allows certain situations to happen for my own good even though I may not perceive it at that time. He separates me from places and people I do not need. Basically I had to learn to lean on him, to place my burden upon him and let him guide me. I learnt to allow the Word of God to correct and rebuke me. As painful as it is at times, I always rise up in the end.

Now, I am able to see the bigger picture. I count my blessing today on this Valentine’s day. My beautiful family is my pride and joy. Home is where my husband is😍

P.S

Love Amede


Butterflies in the stomach

You know that feeling you get when you ‘love’ somebody and when they come close to you, your stomach just turns upside down and feels like butterflies are flattering in it. Magical! and the feeling is good! However, it is just a feeling. A feeling we get when there is sexual attraction or infatuation between people . The decision to love and be married to someone cannot be based on this feeling only.

What happens when you no longer feel the butterflies? Would you say you do not love the person any longer?
1 Corinthians 13:8 says that love never fails

But feelings do fail, they are unreliable. How we feel about something today may not be the same way we feel after some time. 

When relationships between men and women begin, most of the time there is a lot of chemistry and attraction that is accompanied by the ‘fireworks’. This feeling can be there for months and even years depending on how people relate. However, as time goes and a lot has been said and done, we may find that we do not quite feel the butterflies as often as we used to. We may end up not feeling them at all.

When the magical feeling decrease or stop, we should be able to continue loving our spouse. This is where the love of God in you comes in. When God is the third chord in your relationship, His love will sustain the relationship through tests and trials. His strength will help you go an extra mile.Most relationship are built on the basis of emotions more than on the Love and will of God. This is one of the reasons why some of our marriages crumble!

Take stock of your self and your relationship with your spouse.

 Are u both God filled? 

What holds you together and what constitutes the foundation of your relationship?

I am married to a God loving man. He is so hardworking and devoted to me and our children. His standard of life is very high and sometimes I come short and can not fulfill some things that he expects of me. On the other hand, I also have high expectations and he does fail at times but nonetheless, we have managed to work out our marriage and move past challenges. This is because from the onset we built our relationship upon the rock. The Lord God. I still pray that God continue to bind us together in his love.

My greatest desire is to see marriages that are genuinely God filled. Marriages that will survive the woes of the devil and raise Godly children who will take the church and the nation forward. 

The Order of God

 

What is Love (part 2)

The order of God

Our God is a God of order, 1 Corinthians 14:33. He does not do things haphazardly neither does He do them randomly. When God created the world, He had a plan. In addition, He executed each job on its day for six days. He created the world in an orderly manner.

In the previous post, I discussed about making God and His word the foundation for our relationships. I believe if He is the foundation in our lives then we ought to know and follow his order as well. God does not change and His word is sure.

What is God’s Order in the Home?

  • God
  • Husband
  • Wife
  • Children

1 Corinthians 11:3– But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

 

Ephesians 6:1-4

  1. Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise ; 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou may live long on the earth. 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Husbands and parents are to understand that biblical authority does not mean that they are dictatorial or tyrannical in their authority. Everything parents do should be in love. They are to die to themselves in order to do what is best for those under their authority. A husband is to help his wife grow in glory by loving her, leading her and lifting her with encouragement. The husband therefore should be equipped to be the priest of the home.

Ephesians 5:25-28

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself.

I must say, it took me a long time to get this sunk into my head. I lacked understanding about submission. I still miss it here and there but I have allowed God to teach me and direct me.

A wife is be loyalty to her husband out of devotion. She is to adapt to the needs of her husband.  Submission has nothing to do with inferiority or superiority. It is an act of faith in God and his word. Regardless of what the other party does or says, the wife is to try her best to fulfill this part.

 

Ephesians 5:22-24

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

 

Once the family is in order then the church will fall in place and the society respectively. Dysfunctional families give rise to a dysfunctional churches and societies. Now let us look at God’s order for the world. God is always at the top of the Hierarchy. He is our creator. All things work well in Him and without Him, we are lost.

  1. God
  2. Marriage
  3. Family
  4. Church (ministry)
  5. Government

This is God’s divine plan. It is simple and plain. Before God ever created the church, He created the family.  Before God ever created the family, He created the marriage.  Before God created anything, He was! Problems arise when we mix up the order of God. The enemy is always at work trying to make us mix it up.  It is so critical for you to understand God’s divine order.  So many people have destroyed their own lives because they did not understand God’s divine order.

At some point in my marriage, I found myself mixing up things. I sold myself out to church activities. It is good to do that do not get me wrong. However, in my case, I did this at the expense of my family and my marriage. I was not listening to what my husband had to say. I made him feel bad for even complaining just because it was church. There has to be a balance in all we do. God gives wisdom and directs our feet. If we have founded our marriages and relationships on him surely following his word would be easy.

 

P.S

Love Amede

 

Founded On LOVE!

What is love? (part 1)

Now there goes one of the most abused words ever. Sometimes underrated and sometimes overrated. We live in a world that is love-sick. so many awful things are done in the name of love. People kill each other and still claim they loved one another. It is sickening to the soul. It is confusing!

One man of God once preached about love and he said something that really stuck to my heart till date. When defining love he said love is a person. It immediately made sense to me. The bible describes God as love. God has a personality and so is love.

1 john 4:8

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Just like God, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. This is the record about love in the bible – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

These are all the qualities that a person with love should portray. For one to be able to extent love it means they should first have it themselves. They should have God.

we cannot give what we do not have. God is the one who can teach us love more than anyone because He is love Himself. We must first believe in Him and accept Him as Lord over our lives. Then as we build a relationship with him, we will learn love as he continues to love us. Truly if we all had God and His kind of love, the world would be a better place. We cannot kill each other if we loved each other with the love of God.

Now imagine the kind of marriages the world would enjoy if they were built on the foundation of love. With God as the third chord. Am not just talking about a trial and error or baseless relationship between us and God. But a genuine heartfelt relationship where we wholeheartedly depend on God and what His word says about us and how we are to relate to one another. Regardless of the situations we would go through, with God in our marriages surely we would overcome and sail through all challenges we come across.

The divorce rate even for Christian couples is very alarming. Some marriage were just founded on the wrong things, it could be material things, money, power, pity you name it.  As long as the foundation of that marriage or relationship is not strong it will crumble.

With God as the third chord in our marriages, we need to follow his order or design for it because He is the one who ordained marriage and has the blue print for it.

NB: I will go in detail about the Order of God in part 2 of this article.

In most cases we lose it the moment we let our relationship with God go down. There will immediately be an opening or chance for the devil to creep in and mislead us. When we disregard the word of God over our lives, we start to regard someone else’ word.  In most cases what the world says. there is so much misleading information circulating in the world about so many thing. Too many opinions. but we cannot rely on such or base our relationships on it. The word of God is the only sure thing we have to use as a  foundation for our marriages and relationships on because it does not change.

Psalms 19:7-8

The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul; The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple;  The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes 

It is time we trusted the one who created us. Trust Him with our all. He will not lead us astray.

 

P. S

Love Amede

 

 

 

 

First blog post

I want to take this opportunity to introduce myself. my official name is Portia Amede, but you will notice I introduce myself as Love Amede most of the times. Well that is just because I want to answer to a name that corresponds to what my heart yearns for. A name that will also remind me of what I carry and what I should share with the world.

I am a 30-year-old lady from Botswana. I am a Proud wife and mother of two. Growing up, I was raised by a single parent (my mother) together with my brothers. I had my first child as a teenager. it came with its challenges which I will share in the future. As I grew into a young lady, my eyes opened to a lot of things especially those about family and marriage life. The marriages of people around me screamed for help. I saw how most relationships were built on the wrong foundations.

After I got married, I began to yearn for a change. I wanted to be part of that change. I have a vision for godly marriages. godly families and relationships that are founded on God. So this is a platform for me to share with the world my views and prayers for marriages and families. I believe that the upcoming generations have to build the right foundation for marriage. This is not just something one learns a few months before they commit to marriage, but something to learn from a very young age.

So, lets open our hearts to receive wisdom.

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