The Homemaking Ministry Part 1

Growing up I had always thought being a wife and caring for a home is very simple that it comes naturally to a woman. So after I got married over five years back I laid back and expected things to just fall in place. That is just how naive I was. Today I know that homemaking is a full time job and that it requires one’s full attention and energy. Homemaking is a ministry for every woman and wife, one that if neglected can ruin the lives of the family members involved.

So, in this blog post I share just how much i learnt about home making and the qualities I had to cultivate to successfully run my home.

I count it a privilege that as a woman I have a  home and family and I know that it is a blessing from God, so I look up to Him daily for strength and wisdom because over the years I have learned that I can not do anything without His help.

Proverbs 24:3-4 says wisdom builds your home, understanding establishes it, and “by knowledge the rooms are filled” with “precious and pleasant riches.” You gain wisdom, understanding, and knowledge by reading and studying the Word of God

A home is more than just the building where you and your family lives. It is also the atmosphere or feeling that your family member carry everywhere. That emotion that makes them to look forward to getting back to the house. God entrusted women with duties of making a home and caring for the family. I believe He has deposited something in women that qualifies the to carry this beautiful responsibility.

Proverbs 31:27 says a godly wife “watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” She’s a dedicated and hardworking woman who tends her garden with care. A modern Christian wife follows in her footsteps. 

How a home is run can either make or break the people in it. This means that it takes deliberate action towards executing everything that will help you to effortlessly run your home. There will be challenges here and there but it will all fall  into place as long as you do things according to how the word of God says. God never fails remember?

Here are a few tips that help me and I believe they will also help you in your Homemaking ministry..

Love what you do

  • Firstly, you need to fall in love with everything that comes as a responsibility for you. Accept the things that you have to do without comparing yourself with another person or your spouse. Fall in love with cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids if that is what you have to do. Once you Love what you do, then you will see that it is now enjoyable when doing it and it will bring joy to you when you accomplish those duties.

Pay attention

  • Paying attention to your home is and family members is a very vital quality. if exercised daily it can save you a lot of time and energy. There are so many distractions around us and most women and wive work full time jobs, but we still have to try our best to focus on the happenings around our homes. Paying attention includes listening without interpreting, showing interest in every conversation or play, noticing the smallest changes in the house or with the kids behavior, being present when your spouse needs your help, knowing where to find things around the house, the list is long, but I supposed you get the idea.

Manage time well

  • Time management is a bit of a challenge especially since most women have jobs. It is still important that we manage our time well and have a schedule for some of the things done in the home. Remember that what we do in the home also contributes to the molding of our children. create time for playing with the kids and create time for your spouse as well and everybody should know just how to respect each other’s time.

Put your foot down, but kill the fun

  • Every family has a set of rules that every member has to abide by. have a set of rules that will help you run the home and do not compromise easily. Let the other members help you with some chores, have the kids sleep at the same time on weekdays for example, anything that works for all of you. the rules have to be respected.

Be Hospitable 

  • Hospitality is very crucial for every woman and wife. A home is supposed to be welcoming to visitors. How you receive and treat  people in your home says a lot about your family.  Its a skill that the whole family needs to lean intensively because children can embarrass you in the presence of visitors so they need to be let in on what exactly they are supposed to do when visitors come in.

Be clean Always

  •  It is said that cleanliness is next to Godliness! A clean home is very attractive and safe but an unkept home is unsafe and emanates negative energy. Learn to keep things in order and get rid of staff that you do not use or need-that is, avoid clutter! teach your children to stay clean as well. 

Be spontaneous and keep learning

  •  There is a lot that is involve in homemaking and it is a personal responsibility for every woman to make time for learning new things all the time. Learn new recipes, new games, home decorations just to mention a few. Stay unpredictable and you will see just how you become the number one mother and wife

Hope these will help you track where you are. there is a lot to it I just can not put it all in one post. Thank you for reading. 

In my next blog post o will write on the different areas that need your attention in the home as a homemaker. look out for it

 

Love Amede

Be Good At Being YOU!

 

It is difficult to go through and enjoy life when you do not like yourself. if you have not learnt to accept yourself and get along with yourself then it will not be easy to get along with other people. The Bible repeatedly says to “love your neighbour as yourself.” so you see, you must first be in love with who you are before you can extend the love to someone else.  you can not give what you do not have!

At times we stay rooted in guilt, shame, inferiority, rejection, lack of love, poor physical appearance and so forth. All these affect our self perception and the quality of relationships we have with other people. However, once you have a revelation of God’s unconditional love for you and who you are in God’s eyes then you begin to accept yourself and others, eventually these new roots will produce good fruit, and your relationships will thrive.

Are you having a hard time getting along with people? You might realised just how your difficulty with other people is actually “rooted” in your difficulties with yourself.

 

 tips that will help you succeed at being yourself

1. Privately confess good things about yourself .

Start the day making good confessions. You can do this while you’re driving to work, taking a walk or cleaning your house. Perhaps you could look in the mirror and say your confessions out loud. You may even try hugging yourself (i know it might sound silly!). This is beneficial for people who have lacked love and acceptance in their lives.

2. Never say or think negative things about yourself, such as, “I never do anything right.” “I’ll never change.” “I’m ugly.” “I look terrible.” “I’m dumb.” “Who could ever love me?”

Proverbs 23:7 says, …As he thinks in his heart, so is he. Matthew 12:37 says, …By your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.

In other words, the way we talk and think about ourselves reveals how we feel about ourselves. 

3. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.

Every one is good at something. Put more energy in developing your skills and potentials and eventually you will win. some people have more limitations but still excel in their fields. I have seen people swim and run without limbs. Some paint and draw while blind. So there is no excuse to failure when we are gifted.

4. Never compare yourself with other people.

God  took his time to create you as you are and he gave you all the qualities that you have! He must love variety or He wouldn’t have created us all differently—even down to our fingerprints. You’ll never truly succeed at being yourself if you are trying to be like someone else. You can see the good in other people and even admire to learn a few things from them but you can not completely duplicate them. it will not be genuine!.

5. Be courageous and different.

Going along with the crowd, when you know in your heart that you ought to be taking a different path, is one reason people don not succeed at being themselves. You won’t like yourself very much if you go against your own convictions. Be a God-pleaser, not a man-pleaser.

8. Keep your flaws in perspective.

Everybody has a weakness, even those who are over confident. Emotionally intelligent people concentrate on their strengths—not their flaws or weaknesses.

 

Take time to evaluate yourself and see where you could improve. Ultimately invest in developing yourself because It is tough to enjoy life when you don not like yourself. When you learn to succeed at being yourself, you will be well on your way to enjoying life more fully.

P. S

Love Amede

Love Amede Quotes #1

Our life is a matter of choices. One a daily basis we make choices, whether simple or complex. The decisions we make today may affect us tomorrow positively or negatively. Therefore great thought has to go into making complex choices about our lives. It is here that one has to put aside pleasing people because we are the ones that hold the pen of our lives.

If you were to choose between turning the pages or closing the book, what will you choose? As for me I will choose to just turn the page. I will not close the book yet, because the moment I close the book it means my journey has ended. It means I have quit. I would rather just turn the pages so that I can still be able to know and experience what the next chapter has for me. Some people may opt to close the book just because something bad happened, and I think it is a huge mistake.

Life has different chapters and one bad chapter does not mean its the end of the book. When one door closes another door of opportunity opens. Yes, you may be experiencing sad and miserable chapters, you may be hurting and losing all hope, but you will not be spending your entire life in that unhappy state. Life goes on. If you will choose to close the book, you will never be able to know the ending. So why close the entire book if you can still turn the pages? We are free to make our choices in life but we need to be very careful in choosing. Some things happen to teach us lessons and to learn from it; not to give us reasons to give up. Have hope and see the light in the future.

Love Amede

Death By Pride

You have brought down kings and brought shame to the queen’s palace. Thrones have been shaken and kingdoms destroyed.

You have seperated the strongest bonds and severed the deepest relations. You are heartless! The mighty cannot escape from you!

For a moment you seem right, you seem true but only poison springs from your wells. You deceive the elect!

You are silent and deadly, you seperate people from their God. Even God resists the ones that entertain you. He cannot be in the same place with you! No!

Your aim is pure destruction, without mercy you scatter the works of love. I have seen your works, I have tasted the bitterness of your friendship, I quit!

Where you pass only Ashes and broken hearts remain. Your sting is stronger than that of a serpent.

What medicine must I take to sooth the pains of your touch? How must I separate myself from you?

By the Sword I will separate myself from you. By the Word that is ever true. I will hold on to humility and I will uphold my maker forever. My heart will I guard forever!

Love will take your place in my heart. It will brake that seemingly strong bond. I will die to myself, yes! and arise in Christ! Grace is sufficient!

Never again will I hold on to vanity! I quit.

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Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
Proverbs 16:18

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
Proverbs 11:2

An intense preoccupation with the self is an indication of the presence of pride. When everything seems to revolve around you. “ME, MYSELF AND I”.

Pride clouds judgment. It births lies and God resists such people because they feel they do not need anyone and that anyone includes God. For those who feel that they need God in their lives there is humility where they highly esteem God and esteem others as well.

It because of pride that Lucifer lost his place in heaven. Eve also because of pride, ate the forbidden fruit and she and her husband were led away from the garden of Eden. They both fell from grace and there was a separation between them and God.
James 4:6 says that “God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

More often we let pride creep in our relationships and our marriages. Love and pride cannot be in one place. The presence of love purely means the absence of pride.

Because of pride one can never find it easy to admit to their wrong let alone apologies. It destroys relationships.
Today, if you will humble yourself before God, He will exalt you. Choose now to humble yourself before the mighty hand of God because there is wisdom in true humility and people tend to gravitate toward humble people. So too does God.

P.S 😍

Love Amede

I Beg To Differ

As much as it appalling to see the pressures that society has on humanity especially the children of God, it is more flabbergasting to see just how easy it is for us to simply conform. The ability for us to defend what we believe in and who we are has plunged to the ground. It has become the norm that we please people around us more than act on the word of God and hold on to its decrees.

The word of God has everything that we would want to know. It covers every erea of our lives from finances, parenting, marriage, work, just to name a few, but more often than not we chose to follow what the masses are doing. We do a Google search more than we open the bible on that issue. We consult a friend and social media and trust their word until we fail miserably then we trace our steps back to the Word. Back to squre one.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:2

God undeniably knew the dangers here. He had to. He is all knowing. He knew just how being compliant to the desires of the world would be harmful for us. We cannot be in compliance with the world and with God at the same time. We can only serve one master. At any given point you conform to the desires of the world, you are at that time not connected to the word of God.

“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
Matthew 6:24

I have been the biggest victim here. Going places I should not be going even though I knew I might end up doing what I am not supposed to do. Buying some things that I thought I needed at the expense of my tithes just to fit in. Then the devourer would extinguish the little that I have left. This list is extensive. I am sure all of us can put down a few things that we did or are still doing that the word of God has cautioned us against. Knowing the truth is always binding because our conscience will remind us of what is right and whst is wrong . God himself said He can not tempt us with what we can not come out of.

Today is the time to go back to His word- the master plan for our lives. Draw out of it the verdicts for every are of your life. Ask Him for the strength to follow his decrees. He is a present help in times of trouble.

Beg to differ! Do not be ashamed of choosing wisdom. It is profitable to direct. Be the odd one out if means anything. Let God be true and all men liars.

P.S

Love Amede

How I grieved my new born baby

He would be 3 Today! I have not talked publicly about this until today! This day marks his third birthday and I am more at peace today than in the first year of his passing . Time really heals. Nonetheless, I can’t help but imagine how big he would be today and how my life would have been with him around.

March 30th 2015 I lost my precious baby boy, Jediel– the name I never got to call him. It broke my heart to think I had a healthy pregnancy and I lost him due to the carelessness of the nurses at the clinic. I was just left numb and confused. Nothing made sense to me at all. My family and friends were there for me. Church mates were there for me, they encouraged me. For the first weeks and perhaps months, everybody’s words were just bouncing off my ears.

I needed someone to blame. The nurses more than ever yes! But I felt I needed more. A part of me blamed God! The only God I had to run to for comfort. There were so many unanswered questions in my mind I was in a battlefield. I embarked on a journey to find answers in the word of God, I needed to understand what he really says about death, about children dying. I searched for articles on the Internet in order for me to understand more, to know where my baby was. I clang to this for weeks, but it left me even confused because of my approach to it.

Now, because I could not find the answers I wanted I began to withdraw myself from the only thing that could have held me together- God. Only to find comfort in the things that would eventually destroy me. I suffered from panic attacks especially on his first birthday. It was then I realised that I needed to rise. I knew what I had to do. I had to trace myself back to God. The only one who knows more than I do. I went back to His word. This time with an open mind, ready to be comforted by Him. He did not fail me! He never does!

The word of God is true, it is deep and needs understanding when one searches through it. With human understanding one can never unravel its mysteries.

God Himself is mystery. He always makes a way out! He speaks all the time, we just stop listening at times. His love and mercies endures forever!

P.S

Love Amede

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