Lets Start Again!

Lets Start Again!

Welcome to the new year!  I pray it will be a good year for all of us and that we will be able to move closer to our goals with ease. It is pretty much everybody’s norm that when the year starts we take a look into our lives, you know, a little introspection, and we start to analyse everything just to see where we are headed and how we are going to get there. We analyse where we have lacked, what has been our weakness or strength and so on.

So, if you are one of the people who practice this yearly i would like to really clap for you because it shows that you really take yourself seriously and you put an effort into developing yourself. 

It is not always easy to follow through our plans though. At times we carry on just for a few months with all the confidence and strength and then give up in the middle of the year. We tend to get so discouraged and we end up losing hope thereby abandoning the things we set out to do in the beginning.

Lets take a look at some of the things that put us down and kill our zeal. I hope this will help you shape up things for this year! I am excited for you.

  • Procrastination- this has got be the major problem for most people. we just keep delaying and postponing things until we realised time has passed. I know some people work better under pressure but with procrastination no job ends up being done completely. Some people put off tasks because of fear of failure or even fear of success, but in either case they are very concerned with what others think of them. So to curb this one needs to first of all be aware that they are procrastinating and practice high level of self control and discipline. 
  • Self doubt- Doubting yourself does not just pop into your head overnight. It is  belief that one entertains long enough for them to actually start thinking its true. it is a mindset issue. It breeds low confidence and makes one to shy away from opportunities. Self doubt can be killed by firstly getting rid of all negative thoughts about oneself. Everybody has the potential to become their very best and to uniquely achieve their goals. invest in books that will teach you how to think positively and get rid of negative mindset.
  •  No planning- We cannot afford to live life haphazardly, life is not a game. When it is said that we should take things one day at a time it was not meant that we should just fold our arms and watch things unfold! We all need to have a plan. This plan can be broken down into quarterly and monthly goals so that it does not overwhelm you. Planning things will helm eliminate distractions and keep you on track of what you do.
  • Announcing plans before they materialise- It is okay to share your most valued information to close family and friends but this has to be done with caution because sometime people may not understand the vision the way you do. People may end up discouraging you or derailing you from your original plan just because you shared the information just a little early. It is advisable that when you have a plan you write it down so it makes sense to you. Then break it down and brainstorm on all the steps you will have to take to reach that goal. Let people in when the real work starts to show. better yet, let your results announce you!
  • Comparison- No two people are entirely the same, not even identical twins. everyone is unique and so are our ideas. Our creativity can distinguish us from the rest of the world, so comparing ourselves to other people is one thing that can slow us down and even kill our motivation to carry on. One man’s failure doe not mean you will also fail. Rather let us use other people’s experiences as learning curves for ourselves. stay focused in what you do and do not let distractions derail you.

There, I hope that was helpful and would like to hear from you. What are the things that have kept you back over the years? Please do share.

Love Amede

 

 

You are Good Enough

You are Good Enough

In today’s world most people are struggling to find their passion. Because of high rates of unemployment most people take jobs that do not match their passion just so they can put a meal on the table and have a shelter over their heads. People are so misplaced and as a result they are stressed and even depressed because they do not get peace and joy from what they do daily. Many do not just have the motivation to even try to follow their dreams. the world is so full of competition right!

Have you ever been discouraged and thought you were not good enough at doing something that you were talented at?

Most people have quit at trying to be the best that they can because they believe they are not good enough. well the question is;

You are not good enough in comparison to who?

The truth is you will never be as good as anybody simply because you are not them! You can never be good at anything the way other people are. You are unique and no body could ever copy you a hundred percent even if they tried!

Over the past few years I felt so discouraged and did not see the point of me pursuing my dreams. I compared myself to others a lot and felt people would reject what i had to offer. Guess what? After putting a lot of effort into developing myself in the area of my talent I realised that i naturally attract people that need my help and everything just flows effortlessly. It give me pleasure to see the little improvements I make daily.

You might even be thinking no one will take you serious! well those are the thoughts that pull you backwards. Start by believing in who you are and what you want to offer the world! think it and speak it. Live life as if you have already reached your goals. Learn to take small steps daily and see just how much you can accomplish.

Remember, even at your very best, you can never be as good as anyone but yourself!

Love Amede

Be Good At Being YOU!

Be Good At Being YOU!

 

It is difficult to go through and enjoy life when you do not like yourself. if you have not learnt to accept yourself and get along with yourself then it will not be easy to get along with other people. The Bible repeatedly says to “love your neighbour as yourself.” so you see, you must first be in love with who you are before you can extend the love to someone else.  you can not give what you do not have!

At times we stay rooted in guilt, shame, inferiority, rejection, lack of love, poor physical appearance and so forth. All these affect our self perception and the quality of relationships we have with other people. However, once you have a revelation of God’s unconditional love for you and who you are in God’s eyes then you begin to accept yourself and others, eventually these new roots will produce good fruit, and your relationships will thrive.

Are you having a hard time getting along with people? You might realised just how your difficulty with other people is actually “rooted” in your difficulties with yourself.

 

 tips that will help you succeed at being yourself

1. Privately confess good things about yourself .

Start the day making good confessions. You can do this while you’re driving to work, taking a walk or cleaning your house. Perhaps you could look in the mirror and say your confessions out loud. You may even try hugging yourself (i know it might sound silly!). This is beneficial for people who have lacked love and acceptance in their lives.

2. Never say or think negative things about yourself, such as, “I never do anything right.” “I’ll never change.” “I’m ugly.” “I look terrible.” “I’m dumb.” “Who could ever love me?”

Proverbs 23:7 says, …As he thinks in his heart, so is he. Matthew 12:37 says, …By your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.

In other words, the way we talk and think about ourselves reveals how we feel about ourselves. 

3. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.

Every one is good at something. Put more energy in developing your skills and potentials and eventually you will win. some people have more limitations but still excel in their fields. I have seen people swim and run without limbs. Some paint and draw while blind. So there is no excuse to failure when we are gifted.

4. Never compare yourself with other people.

God  took his time to create you as you are and he gave you all the qualities that you have! He must love variety or He wouldn’t have created us all differently—even down to our fingerprints. You’ll never truly succeed at being yourself if you are trying to be like someone else. You can see the good in other people and even admire to learn a few things from them but you can not completely duplicate them. it will not be genuine!.

5. Be courageous and different.

Going along with the crowd, when you know in your heart that you ought to be taking a different path, is one reason people don not succeed at being themselves. You won’t like yourself very much if you go against your own convictions. Be a God-pleaser, not a man-pleaser.

8. Keep your flaws in perspective.

Everybody has a weakness, even those who are over confident. Emotionally intelligent people concentrate on their strengths—not their flaws or weaknesses.

 

Take time to evaluate yourself and see where you could improve. Ultimately invest in developing yourself because It is tough to enjoy life when you don not like yourself. When you learn to succeed at being yourself, you will be well on your way to enjoying life more fully.

P. S

Love Amede

To the beautifuly and wonderfully created Woman!

To the beautifuly and wonderfully created Woman!

This is for the woman who soaks her pillow at night. I have been there, I share your pain.

To the woman who have given her all and still doesn’t get anything in return. Your giving will not be in vain. Hold on to hope!

This is for the woman who has lost a loved one. Go on cry and let it all out. Then cherish the beautiful memories you have!

To the woman who has been shunned, rejected and battered! Crawl back to your heavenly father, let him give you peace and rest!

This is for you, bruised woman. You feel like you have crumbled to the floor. Arise! Pick up the pieces and stand tall.

To you forgotten woman! I see you. You are visible and capable. Take charge and make your story known. Let the world see you.

This goes to the woman who just wants to be loved. Love is within you! Let it overflow!

To the woman whose husband doesn’t return home after work! The clock ticks and he is far from home. Take a deep breath and kneel down.

To the woman who feels unfulfilled, the sky is the limit! Explore your options and work hard!

You are your home maker. You are creative oh woman. Look up! There is hope. Let go of the past and move forward! Let love lead

P.S

Love Amede💖

Behind the MASK!

Behind the MASK!

One way or the other most of us are facing fear – We are afraid of being seen for who we truly are. We are Afraid of seeing ourselves for who we really are. We are Afraid of confronting our limiting beliefs, and we avoid facing fear by hiding!

Proverbs 13:7
There is one who pretends to be rich, but has nothing; Another pretends to be poor, but has great wealth.

In the quest to prevent our true inner self from being seen, we wear a symbolic or metaphorical mask over our authentic personality in the hope that we will remain hidden. Behind it there is confusion, fear and loneliness. But we hide this. We don’t want anyone to know it. We panic that our weakness and fear will be exposed.

That is why we sometimes create a mask behind which to hide. An indifferent and sophisticated facade that helps us to pretend. It serves as a shield before a knowing eye. As long as it makes us feel accepted and loved. That we are someone, that we are worthy.

Why do we put on a mask?

Fear and doubt
It is fear and doubt that creates the mask, and fear which keeps it in place. What we miss is that the mask hides our true and most beautiful self from both ourselves and from the world. It prevents us from becoming our best potential.

In order to find our authentic self we must align ourselves with the word of God and face fear by digging down to the deepest, most hidden part of ourselves, that fearful place where we dread what we think is hidden.

2 Timothy 1:7

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

When we dig deeply enough into our hidden nature we find not darkness but light and the realization that our safety lies in actually letting down the mask and being seen in being our true selves.

Are you hiding behind a mask? Would you be surprised if I told you that most people are not being who they truly are and that, in fact, we are trained or influenced by many factors from a very early age to move away from our true selves.

Growing up, we are taught by other people or the society on how to behave, how to think, what to believe and who to be. We are given direct or indirect messages that if we behave in certain ways this and that will happen. That we are not good enough. And that certain behaviors, emotions and ways of thinking are bad. Forever trying to please!

Because of this early conditioning, some people create masks so that they can belong and feel as if they fit in. They want to gain the approval and acceptance of others. Many people fall so fully into living behind their masks that they never have the opportunity to experience the richness of who they really are. Very sad!

I am certainly no exception to the rule. I grew up with so many misleading negative believes and perceptions. This influenced the courses I chose at school, the people I hanged with, the visions I had about my future, the relationships I entered into and so on. This was the role I played so that I would be accepted!

This same problem exists for so many others. I see people every day that are trapped behind a mask that they have created. Many are stuck in bad jobs or relationships and have given up hope that they can ever have the life that they truly want.

Are you worried that this may be you?

-Do you feel like you are living a lie?

-You are persuing a job or are you in a relationship that you know isn’t right for you?

-Have you dealt with depression or anxiety?

-How often do you experience pure joy?

-Do You find yourself jealous or envying others?

If you are familiar with any of these qualities, the good news is that it is YOU who can absolutely break out from behind the mask. You can erase all the false and negative perceptions you have about life and replace them with positive goals and visions. You can uncover God’s promises over your life and live a fulfilled life. Once you begin being true to you, then you will find that you will be able to create the life that you’ve longed for…intentionally!

P.S

Love Amede