In the last blog post we explored the qualities needed for successfully running a home. Today I thought I should let you in the four key areas that need our attention in this beautiful ministry of homemaking.
It is very easy to neglect some areas in the home since we have very hectic schedules ranging from formal jobs, raising kids, planning for meals and so on. We need to strive for balance in everything that we do. At times we even wake up and carry on with our day forgetting to even ask God for guidance in all we do!
firstly, I would like to say, “we are all capable!”. We all have the capability to do the things that are our responsibility. With deliberate planning and commitment it can be done so well. So, lets get to it! The various areas that need our attention at home.
There is so much I have to say about hospitality. In fact, it can be an entire blog post. Hospitality is not Entertaining. Hospitality is not about the spotless home but focusing on the one that walks through the door of your welcoming home.
Real hospitality is when you entirely focus on your guests and welcome someone them. The person entering your home, if truly seeking connection, is not checking the dust bunnies in your corners, the dishes that might be stacked by the sink and the dirt on your toddler’s face & shirt. People want to be known and cared for. I tell you the truth that hospitality is fearless and freeing once you come to embrace the true meaning of hospitality.
2. Health And Safety
A clean home is a healthy and safe home. keeping your home clean will help you accomplish and maintain a healthy, safe environment for your family members. Everything has to be placed appropriately. I know it can be quite tough when you have toddlers running around the house. its quite a job! It goes beyond this though. Keeping a healthy and safe home also includes preparing healthy food for the family. This is very crucial as since eating habits will either harm your family or help them live longer.
This is one area that most of us find challenging. We are the ones that build the eating habits for our children so we owe it to them to practice healthy eating habits from an early age. Children can eat sweets here and there or snack on junk food, it just dos not have to be a daily thing. It is actually easy for them to follow through when they observe us doing the same. As homemakers we need to determine the kind of foods that are served in our homes as well as educate the rest of the family on healthy eating.
For families that are blessed with children, parenting may prove to be more challenging than expected if the parents themselves do not agree on a common ground. Both parents have to hold the sword here. parenting is different for every household but there has to be proper communication as to how it will be done. Agree on discipline and how it will be administered. Children can be very manipulative if they sense a division among the parents so do not let them outsmart you!.
There are more areas that need your full attention in your home but i just wanted to focus on these four! It takes continuous learning and hard work for us to run beautiful homes and god does enable us for it all.
As much as it appalling to see the pressures that society has on humanity especially the children of God, it is more flabbergasting to see just how easy it is for us to simply conform. The ability for us to defend what we believe in and who we are has plunged to the ground. It has become the norm that we please people around us more than act on the word of God and hold on to its decrees.
The word of God has everything that we would want to know. It covers every erea of our lives from finances, parenting, marriage, work, just to name a few, but more often than not we chose to follow what the masses are doing. We do a Google search more than we open the bible on that issue. We consult a friend and social media and trust their word until we fail miserably then we trace our steps back to the Word. Back to squre one.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
God undeniably knew the dangers here. He had to. He is all knowing. He knew just how being compliant to the desires of the world would be harmful for us. We cannot be in compliance with the world and with God at the same time. We can only serve one master. At any given point you conform to the desires of the world, you are at that time not connected to the word of God.
“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
I have been the biggest victim here. Going places I should not be going even though I knew I might end up doing what I am not supposed to do. Buying some things that I thought I needed at the expense of my tithes just to fit in. Then the devourer would extinguish the little that I have left. This list is extensive. I am sure all of us can put down a few things that we did or are still doing that the word of God has cautioned us against. Knowing the truth is always binding because our conscience will remind us of what is right and whst is wrong . God himself said He can not tempt us with what we can not come out of.
Today is the time to go back to His word- the master plan for our lives. Draw out of it the verdicts for every are of your life. Ask Him for the strength to follow his decrees. He is a present help in times of trouble.
Beg to differ! Do not be ashamed of choosing wisdom. It is profitable to direct. Be the odd one out if means anything. Let God be true and all men liars.
He would be 3 Today! I have not talked publicly about this until today! This day marks his third birthday and I am more at peace today than in the first year of his passing . Time really heals. Nonetheless, I can’t help but imagine how big he would be today and how my life would have been with him around.
March 30th 2015 I lost my precious baby boy, Jediel– the name I never got to call him. It broke my heart to think I had a healthy pregnancy and I lost him due to the carelessness of the nurses at the clinic. I was just left numb and confused. Nothing made sense to me at all. My family and friends were there for me. Church mates were there for me, they encouraged me. For the first weeks and perhaps months, everybody’s words were just bouncing off my ears.
I needed someone to blame. The nurses more than ever yes! But I felt I needed more. A part of me blamed God! The only God I had to run to for comfort. There were so many unanswered questions in my mind I was in a battlefield. I embarked on a journey to find answers in the word of God, I needed to understand what he really says about death, about children dying. I searched for articles on the Internet in order for me to understand more, to know where my baby was. I clang to this for weeks, but it left me even confused because of my approach to it.
Now, because I could not find the answers I wanted I began to withdraw myself from the only thing that could have held me together- God. Only to find comfort in the things that would eventually destroy me. I suffered from panic attacks especially on his first birthday. It was then I realised that I needed to rise. I knew what I had to do. I had to trace myself back to God. The only one who knows more than I do. I went back to His word. This time with an open mind, ready to be comforted by Him. He did not fail me! He never does!
The word of God is true, it is deep and needs understanding when one searches through it. With human understanding one can never unravel its mysteries.
God Himself is mystery. He always makes a way out! He speaks all the time, we just stop listening at times. His love and mercies endures forever!
Entry #1- expectations Vs Reality
Its almost five years since I got married to my husband. I must say, it has been the most significant time of my life. As I ponder on my experience in this blissful covenant so far, I am more thankful to God for sustaining us and leading us on a daily basis. He really is the third chord in this union. Even though at times we go ahead of Him or derail from His word, He has always been ready to take us back on track upon repentance.
I now have come to appreciate that when I got into this covenant, I had some expectations that have not surfaced even up to today. Expectations about life, expectations about my spouse and about myself as well(some being very unrealistic expectations). Reality struck me in so many areas of my life. I saw myself fail on areas that I had initially thought I would sail though. I got disappointed here and there. I wished I could change somethings about me, and my husband.
The big lesson for me was realising that I could not do anything out of God’s word and still maintain peace. I need his strength every day. He has a plan bigger than my own expectations. He allows certain situations to happen for my own good even though I may not perceive it at that time. He separates me from places and people I do not need. Basically I had to learn to lean on him, to place my burden upon him and let him guide me. I learnt to allow the Word of God to correct and rebuke me. As painful as it is at times, I always rise up in the end.
Now, I am able to see the bigger picture. I count my blessing today on this Valentine’s day. My beautiful family is my pride and joy. Home is where my husband is😍