It is difficult to go through and enjoy life when you do not like yourself. if you have not learnt to accept yourself and get along with yourself then it will not be easy to get along with other people. The Bible repeatedly says to “love your neighbour as yourself.” so you see, you must first be in love with who you are before you can extend the love to someone else. you can not give what you do not have!
At times we stay rooted in guilt, shame, inferiority, rejection, lack of love, poor physical appearance and so forth. All these affect our self perception and the quality of relationships we have with other people. However, once you have a revelation of God’s unconditional love for you and who you are in God’s eyes then you begin to accept yourself and others, eventually these new roots will produce good fruit, and your relationships will thrive.
Are you having a hard time getting along with people? You might realised just how your difficulty with other people is actually “rooted” in your difficulties with yourself.
tips that will help you succeed at being yourself
1. Privately confess good things about yourself .
Start the day making good confessions. You can do this while you’re driving to work, taking a walk or cleaning your house. Perhaps you could look in the mirror and say your confessions out loud. You may even try hugging yourself (i know it might sound silly!). This is beneficial for people who have lacked love and acceptance in their lives.
2. Never say or think negative things about yourself, such as, “I never do anything right.” “I’ll never change.” “I’m ugly.” “I look terrible.” “I’m dumb.” “Who could ever love me?”
Proverbs 23: 7 says, …As he thinks in his heart, so is he Mathews 12:37 says, …By your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.
In other words, the way we talk and think about ourselves reveals how we feel about ourselves.
3. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.
Every one is good at something. Put more energy in developing your skills and potentials and eventually you will win. some people have more limitations but still excel in their fields. I have seen people swim and run without limbs. Some paint and draw while blind. So there is no excuse to failure when we are gifted.
4. Never compare yourself with other people.
God took his time to create you as you are and he gave you all the qualities that you have! He must love variety or He wouldn’t have created us all differently—even down to our fingerprints. You’ll never truly succeed at being yourself if you are trying to be like someone else. You can see the good in other people and even admire to learn a few things from them but you can not completely duplicate them. it will not be genuine!.
5. Be courageous and different.
Going along with the crowd, when you know in your heart that you ought to be taking a different path, is one reason people don not succeed at being themselves. You won’t like yourself very much if you go against your own convictions. Be a God-pleaser, not a man-pleaser.
8. Keep your flaws in perspective.
Everybody has a weakness, even those who are over confident. Emotionally intelligent people concentrate on their strengths—not their flaws or weaknesses.
Take time to evaluate yourself and see where you could improve. Ultimately invest in developing yourself because It is tough to enjoy life when you don not like yourself. When you learn to succeed at being yourself, you will be well on your way to enjoying life more fully.