You know that feeling you get when you ‘love’ somebody and when they come close to you, your stomach just turns upside down and feels like butterflies are flattering in it. Magical! and the feeling is good! However, it is just a feeling. A feeling we get when there is sexual attraction or infatuation between people . The decision to love and be married to someone cannot be based on this feeling only.
What happens when you no longer feel the butterflies? Would you say you do not love the person any longer?
1 Corinthians 13:8 says that love never fails
But feelings do fail, they are unreliable. How we feel about something today may not be the same way we feel after some time.
When relationships between men and women begin, most of the time there is a lot of chemistry and attraction that is accompanied by the ‘fireworks’. This feeling can be there for months and even years depending on how people relate. However, as time goes and a lot has been said and done, we may find that we do not quite feel the butterflies as often as we used to. We may end up not feeling them at all.
When the magical feeling decrease or stop, we should be able to continue loving our spouse. This is where the love of God in you comes in. When God is the third chord in your relationship, His love will sustain the relationship through tests and trials. His strength will help you go an extra mile.Most relationship are built on the basis of emotions more than on the Love and will of God. This is one of the reasons why some of our marriages crumble!
Take stock of your self and your relationship with your spouse.
Are u both God filled?
What holds you together and what constitutes the foundation of your relationship?
I am married to a God loving man. He is so hardworking and devoted to me and our children. His standard of life is very high and sometimes I come short and can not fulfill some things that he expects of me. On the other hand, I also have high expectations and he does fail at times but nonetheless, we have managed to work out our marriage and move past challenges. This is because from the onset we built our relationship upon the rock. The Lord God. I still pray that God continue to bind us together in his love.
My greatest desire is to see marriages that are genuinely God filled. Marriages that will survive the woes of the devil and raise Godly children who will take the church and the nation forward.