What is love? (part 1)
Now there goes one of the most abused words ever. Sometimes underrated and sometimes overrated. We live in a world that is love-sick. so many awful things are done in the name of love. People kill each other and still claim they loved one another. It is sickening to the soul. It is confusing!
One man of God once preached about love and he said something that really stuck to my heart till date. When defining love he said love is a person. It immediately made sense to me. The bible describes God as love. God has a personality and so is love.
1 john 4:8
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
Just like God, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. This is the record about love in the bible – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
These are all the qualities that a person with love should portray. For one to be able to extent love it means they should first have it themselves. They should have God.
we cannot give what we do not have. God is the one who can teach us love more than anyone because He is love Himself. We must first believe in Him and accept Him as Lord over our lives. Then as we build a relationship with him, we will learn love as he continues to love us. Truly if we all had God and His kind of love, the world would be a better place. We cannot kill each other if we loved each other with the love of God.
Now imagine the kind of marriages the world would enjoy if they were built on the foundation of love. With God as the third chord. Am not just talking about a trial and error or baseless relationship between us and God. But a genuine heartfelt relationship where we wholeheartedly depend on God and what His word says about us and how we are to relate to one another. Regardless of the situations we would go through, with God in our marriages surely we would overcome and sail through all challenges we come across.
The divorce rate even for Christian couples is very alarming. Some marriage were just founded on the wrong things, it could be material things, money, power, pity you name it. As long as the foundation of that marriage or relationship is not strong it will crumble.
With God as the third chord in our marriages, we need to follow his order or design for it because He is the one who ordained marriage and has the blue print for it.
NB: I will go in detail about the Order of God in part 2 of this article.
In most cases we lose it the moment we let our relationship with God go down. There will immediately be an opening or chance for the devil to creep in and mislead us. When we disregard the word of God over our lives, we start to regard someone else’ word. In most cases what the world says. there is so much misleading information circulating in the world about so many thing. Too many opinions. but we cannot rely on such or base our relationships on it. The word of God is the only sure thing we have to use as a foundation for our marriages and relationships on because it does not change.
The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul; The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple; The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes
It is time we trusted the one who created us. Trust Him with our all. He will not lead us astray.