Let It Shine

Let It Shine

 

Stars are some the most beautiful things that God created in this universe. on a clear night they dress the sky with splendor and when we gaze into the heavens, we see a sky full of glimmering, light-giving stars created by God. In Psalm 147, it says He knows precisely how many stars there are and that He has given each one of them a name. How amazing is that? The attention He has paid to the stars reminds us as His prized possession, just how valued and precious we are to Him. He did not create anything by mistake neither did He create us without a purpose. In fact, God deposited something special and unique in each one of us.

It is said how most people perish before the discover what it is that they are purposed to do in this life. Bright destinies are terminated before they can even begin to shine like the stars up in the sky. Just as much as God has perfectly designed the stars to light up a darkened sky, He has also given every one of us the responsibility and the ability to shine His life-giving light in the darkness. Matthew 5:16 says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

so, lets see just how we can let our light shine!

  1.  Embrace your God-given task. 

Nobody tells the stars up in the sky how much, where, or when to shine because shining is what stars naturally do. They are definitely fulfilling their purpose. Likewise, in Matthew 5:14-16, we are told that we are the light of the world and to shine before people, “so they can see the good things you do and praise your Father who is in heaven.” For instance, forgiving the unforgivable, loving the unlovable,  and radiating Christlike character are some of the ways to reflect the radiance of our Heavenly Father and show this world how amazing He is. When our love for God compels us to love others the way He wants us to (unconditionally), this world gets the opportunity to see Him in us and be changed by Him. Loving others in one of the things that we are purposed to do in this world.

  1. Shine whether we are in the forefront or the background.

when you look up in the sky you will notice that some stars are brighter that the others. nevertheless, stars do not stop shining just because the other surrounding stars emit a brighter light than them. They continue to shine from wherever their position is in the heavens. Sometimes comparing our progress to other people may make us seem like we are incapable of doing our missions. When we compare the impact of our light to someone else’s impact and become discouraged, we hinder God’s plan in our lives.  Comparing our shine to others is a waste of time since God purposely bestowed different personalities and talents upon each one of us. He created all of us differently so that when we are shining our unique light, the result displays His brilliance. 

  1. Shine even when others ignore, reject, or complain about the light.

At times it is discouraging to be unnoticed when you have put so much effort into something but it is not the attention that comes from people that really matters. How brightly stars shine is not dependent on the reaction of people who view them. If the light they radiate is not noticed or appreciated, stars keep right on shining. when people do not notice you, its not the time to say “i quit” but rather to   continue trying to live a Christ-filled life when it seems like we are having no impact or even a negative impact on others can be difficult. When we are focused on the reaction of people rather than the reward of an obedient life, we are missing what truly matters.  However, if we shift our focus back to God’s opinion of us rather than the world’s and pray for inspiration to continue shining, I believe we will stay motivated to let our light keep right on shining and impact the world. 

So the next time you feel a little discouraged just because other people seem to be achieving more than you, look up to the sky and let the stars inspire you to keep shining. Let it shine!

Love Amede

Lets Start Again!

Lets Start Again!

Welcome to the new year!  I pray it will be a good year for all of us and that we will be able to move closer to our goals with ease. It is pretty much everybody’s norm that when the year starts we take a look into our lives, you know, a little introspection, and we start to analyse everything just to see where we are headed and how we are going to get there. We analyse where we have lacked, what has been our weakness or strength and so on.

So, if you are one of the people who practice this yearly i would like to really clap for you because it shows that you really take yourself seriously and you put an effort into developing yourself. 

It is not always easy to follow through our plans though. At times we carry on just for a few months with all the confidence and strength and then give up in the middle of the year. We tend to get so discouraged and we end up losing hope thereby abandoning the things we set out to do in the beginning.

Lets take a look at some of the things that put us down and kill our zeal. I hope this will help you shape up things for this year! I am excited for you.

  • Procrastination- this has got be the major problem for most people. we just keep delaying and postponing things until we realised time has passed. I know some people work better under pressure but with procrastination no job ends up being done completely. Some people put off tasks because of fear of failure or even fear of success, but in either case they are very concerned with what others think of them. So to curb this one needs to first of all be aware that they are procrastinating and practice high level of self control and discipline. 
  • Self doubt- Doubting yourself does not just pop into your head overnight. It is  belief that one entertains long enough for them to actually start thinking its true. it is a mindset issue. It breeds low confidence and makes one to shy away from opportunities. Self doubt can be killed by firstly getting rid of all negative thoughts about oneself. Everybody has the potential to become their very best and to uniquely achieve their goals. invest in books that will teach you how to think positively and get rid of negative mindset.
  •  No planning- We cannot afford to live life haphazardly, life is not a game. When it is said that we should take things one day at a time it was not meant that we should just fold our arms and watch things unfold! We all need to have a plan. This plan can be broken down into quarterly and monthly goals so that it does not overwhelm you. Planning things will helm eliminate distractions and keep you on track of what you do.
  • Announcing plans before they materialise- It is okay to share your most valued information to close family and friends but this has to be done with caution because sometime people may not understand the vision the way you do. People may end up discouraging you or derailing you from your original plan just because you shared the information just a little early. It is advisable that when you have a plan you write it down so it makes sense to you. Then break it down and brainstorm on all the steps you will have to take to reach that goal. Let people in when the real work starts to show. better yet, let your results announce you!
  • Comparison- No two people are entirely the same, not even identical twins. everyone is unique and so are our ideas. Our creativity can distinguish us from the rest of the world, so comparing ourselves to other people is one thing that can slow us down and even kill our motivation to carry on. One man’s failure doe not mean you will also fail. Rather let us use other people’s experiences as learning curves for ourselves. stay focused in what you do and do not let distractions derail you.

There, I hope that was helpful and would like to hear from you. What are the things that have kept you back over the years? Please do share.

Love Amede

 

 

The Homemaking Ministry Part 2

The Homemaking Ministry Part 2

In the last blog post we explored the qualities needed for successfully running a home. Today I thought I should let you in the four key areas that need our attention in this beautiful ministry of homemaking.

It is very easy to neglect some areas in the home since we have very hectic schedules ranging from formal jobs, raising kids, planning for meals and so on. We need to strive for balance in everything that we do. At times we even wake up and carry on with our day forgetting to even ask God for guidance in all we do!

firstly, I would like to say, “we are all capable!”. We all have the capability to do the things that are our responsibility. With deliberate planning and commitment it can be done so well. So, lets get to it! The various areas that need our attention at home.

1. Hospitality

There is so much I have to say about hospitality. In fact, it can be an entire blog post. Hospitality is not Entertaining. Hospitality is not about the spotless home but focusing on the one that walks through the door of your welcoming home.
Real hospitality is when you entirely focus on your guests and welcome someone them.  The person entering your home, if truly seeking connection, is not checking the dust bunnies in your corners, the dishes that might be stacked by the sink and the dirt on your toddler’s face & shirt. People want to be known and cared for. I tell you the truth that hospitality is fearless and freeing once you come to embrace the true meaning of hospitality.

2. Health And Safety

A clean home is a healthy and safe home. keeping your home clean will help you accomplish and maintain a healthy, safe environment for your family members. Everything has to be placed appropriately. I know it can be quite tough when you have toddlers running around the house. its quite a job! It goes beyond this though. Keeping a healthy and safe home also includes preparing healthy food for the family. This is very crucial as since eating habits will either harm your family or help them live longer.

3. Diet

This is one area that most of us find challenging. We are the ones that build the eating habits for our children so we owe it to them to practice healthy eating habits from an early age. Children can eat sweets here and there or snack on junk food, it just dos not have to be a daily thing. It is actually easy for them to follow through when they observe us doing the same. As homemakers we need to determine the kind of foods that are served in our homes as well as educate the rest of the family on healthy eating.

4. Parenting

For families that are blessed with children, parenting may prove to be more challenging than expected if the parents themselves do not agree on a common ground. Both parents have to hold the sword here. parenting is different for every household but there has to be proper communication as to how it will be done. Agree on discipline and how it will be administered. Children can be very manipulative if they sense a division among the parents so do not let them outsmart you!.

There are more areas that need your full attention in your home but i just wanted to focus on these four! It takes continuous learning and hard work for us to run beautiful homes and god does enable us for it all.

P. S

Love Amede

The Homemaking Ministry Part 1

The Homemaking Ministry Part 1

Growing up I had always thought being a wife and caring for a home is very simple that it comes naturally to a woman. So after I got married over five years back I laid back and expected things to just fall in place. That is just how naive I was. Today I know that homemaking is a full time job and that it requires one’s full attention and energy. Homemaking is a ministry for every woman and wife, one that if neglected can ruin the lives of the family members involved.

So, in this blog post I share just how much i learnt about home making and the qualities I had to cultivate to successfully run my home.

I count it a privilege that as a woman I have a  home and family and I know that it is a blessing from God, so I look up to Him daily for strength and wisdom because over the years I have learned that I can not do anything without His help.

Proverbs 24:3-4 says wisdom builds your home, understanding establishes it, and “by knowledge the rooms are filled” with “precious and pleasant riches.” You gain wisdom, understanding, and knowledge by reading and studying the Word of God

A home is more than just the building where you and your family lives. It is also the atmosphere or feeling that your family member carry everywhere. That emotion that makes them to look forward to getting back to the house. God entrusted women with duties of making a home and caring for the family. I believe He has deposited something in women that qualifies the to carry this beautiful responsibility.

Proverbs 31:27 says a godly wife “watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” She’s a dedicated and hardworking woman who tends her garden with care. A modern Christian wife follows in her footsteps. 

How a home is run can either make or break the people in it. This means that it takes deliberate action towards executing everything that will help you to effortlessly run your home. There will be challenges here and there but it will all fall  into place as long as you do things according to how the word of God says. God never fails remember?

Here are a few tips that help me and I believe they will also help you in your Homemaking ministry..

Love what you do

  • Firstly, you need to fall in love with everything that comes as a responsibility for you. Accept the things that you have to do without comparing yourself with another person or your spouse. Fall in love with cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids if that is what you have to do. Once you Love what you do, then you will see that it is now enjoyable when doing it and it will bring joy to you when you accomplish those duties.

Pay attention

  • Paying attention to your home is and family members is a very vital quality. if exercised daily it can save you a lot of time and energy. There are so many distractions around us and most women and wive work full time jobs, but we still have to try our best to focus on the happenings around our homes. Paying attention includes listening without interpreting, showing interest in every conversation or play, noticing the smallest changes in the house or with the kids behavior, being present when your spouse needs your help, knowing where to find things around the house, the list is long, but I supposed you get the idea.

Manage time well

  • Time management is a bit of a challenge especially since most women have jobs. It is still important that we manage our time well and have a schedule for some of the things done in the home. Remember that what we do in the home also contributes to the molding of our children. create time for playing with the kids and create time for your spouse as well and everybody should know just how to respect each other’s time.

Put your foot down, but kill the fun

  • Every family has a set of rules that every member has to abide by. have a set of rules that will help you run the home and do not compromise easily. Let the other members help you with some chores, have the kids sleep at the same time on weekdays for example, anything that works for all of you. the rules have to be respected.

Be Hospitable 

  • Hospitality is very crucial for every woman and wife. A home is supposed to be welcoming to visitors. How you receive and treat  people in your home says a lot about your family.  Its a skill that the whole family needs to lean intensively because children can embarrass you in the presence of visitors so they need to be let in on what exactly they are supposed to do when visitors come in.

Be clean Always

  •  It is said that cleanliness is next to Godliness! A clean home is very attractive and safe but an unkept home is unsafe and emanates negative energy. Learn to keep things in order and get rid of staff that you do not use or need-that is, avoid clutter! teach your children to stay clean as well. 

Be spontaneous and keep learning

  •  There is a lot that is involve in homemaking and it is a personal responsibility for every woman to make time for learning new things all the time. Learn new recipes, new games, home decorations just to mention a few. Stay unpredictable and you will see just how you become the number one mother and wife

Hope these will help you track where you are. there is a lot to it I just can not put it all in one post. Thank you for reading. 

In my next blog post o will write on the different areas that need your attention in the home as a homemaker. look out for it

 

Love Amede

You are Good Enough

You are Good Enough

In today’s world most people are struggling to find their passion. Because of high rates of unemployment most people take jobs that do not match their passion just so they can put a meal on the table and have a shelter over their heads. People are so misplaced and as a result they are stressed and even depressed because they do not get peace and joy from what they do daily. Many do not just have the motivation to even try to follow their dreams. the world is so full of competition right!

Have you ever been discouraged and thought you were not good enough at doing something that you were talented at?

Most people have quit at trying to be the best that they can because they believe they are not good enough. well the question is;

You are not good enough in comparison to who?

The truth is you will never be as good as anybody simply because you are not them! You can never be good at anything the way other people are. You are unique and no body could ever copy you a hundred percent even if they tried!

Over the past few years I felt so discouraged and did not see the point of me pursuing my dreams. I compared myself to others a lot and felt people would reject what i had to offer. Guess what? After putting a lot of effort into developing myself in the area of my talent I realised that i naturally attract people that need my help and everything just flows effortlessly. It give me pleasure to see the little improvements I make daily.

You might even be thinking no one will take you serious! well those are the thoughts that pull you backwards. Start by believing in who you are and what you want to offer the world! think it and speak it. Live life as if you have already reached your goals. Learn to take small steps daily and see just how much you can accomplish.

Remember, even at your very best, you can never be as good as anyone but yourself!

Love Amede

Be Good At Being YOU!

Be Good At Being YOU!

 

It is difficult to go through and enjoy life when you do not like yourself. if you have not learnt to accept yourself and get along with yourself then it will not be easy to get along with other people. The Bible repeatedly says to “love your neighbour as yourself.” so you see, you must first be in love with who you are before you can extend the love to someone else.  you can not give what you do not have!

At times we stay rooted in guilt, shame, inferiority, rejection, lack of love, poor physical appearance and so forth. All these affect our self perception and the quality of relationships we have with other people. However, once you have a revelation of God’s unconditional love for you and who you are in God’s eyes then you begin to accept yourself and others, eventually these new roots will produce good fruit, and your relationships will thrive.

Are you having a hard time getting along with people? You might realised just how your difficulty with other people is actually “rooted” in your difficulties with yourself.

 

 tips that will help you succeed at being yourself

1. Privately confess good things about yourself .

Start the day making good confessions. You can do this while you’re driving to work, taking a walk or cleaning your house. Perhaps you could look in the mirror and say your confessions out loud. You may even try hugging yourself (i know it might sound silly!). This is beneficial for people who have lacked love and acceptance in their lives.

2. Never say or think negative things about yourself, such as, “I never do anything right.” “I’ll never change.” “I’m ugly.” “I look terrible.” “I’m dumb.” “Who could ever love me?”

Proverbs 23:7 says, …As he thinks in his heart, so is he. Matthew 12:37 says, …By your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.

In other words, the way we talk and think about ourselves reveals how we feel about ourselves. 

3. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.

Every one is good at something. Put more energy in developing your skills and potentials and eventually you will win. some people have more limitations but still excel in their fields. I have seen people swim and run without limbs. Some paint and draw while blind. So there is no excuse to failure when we are gifted.

4. Never compare yourself with other people.

God  took his time to create you as you are and he gave you all the qualities that you have! He must love variety or He wouldn’t have created us all differently—even down to our fingerprints. You’ll never truly succeed at being yourself if you are trying to be like someone else. You can see the good in other people and even admire to learn a few things from them but you can not completely duplicate them. it will not be genuine!.

5. Be courageous and different.

Going along with the crowd, when you know in your heart that you ought to be taking a different path, is one reason people don not succeed at being themselves. You won’t like yourself very much if you go against your own convictions. Be a God-pleaser, not a man-pleaser.

8. Keep your flaws in perspective.

Everybody has a weakness, even those who are over confident. Emotionally intelligent people concentrate on their strengths—not their flaws or weaknesses.

 

Take time to evaluate yourself and see where you could improve. Ultimately invest in developing yourself because It is tough to enjoy life when you don not like yourself. When you learn to succeed at being yourself, you will be well on your way to enjoying life more fully.

P. S

Love Amede

To the beautifuly and wonderfully created Woman!

To the beautifuly and wonderfully created Woman!

This is for the woman who soaks her pillow at night. I have been there, I share your pain.

To the woman who have given her all and still doesn’t get anything in return. Your giving will not be in vain. Hold on to hope!

This is for the woman who has lost a loved one. Go on cry and let it all out. Then cherish the beautiful memories you have!

To the woman who has been shunned, rejected and battered! Crawl back to your heavenly father, let him give you peace and rest!

This is for you, bruised woman. You feel like you have crumbled to the floor. Arise! Pick up the pieces and stand tall.

To you forgotten woman! I see you. You are visible and capable. Take charge and make your story known. Let the world see you.

This goes to the woman who just wants to be loved. Love is within you! Let it overflow!

To the woman whose husband doesn’t return home after work! The clock ticks and he is far from home. Take a deep breath and kneel down.

To the woman who feels unfulfilled, the sky is the limit! Explore your options and work hard!

You are your home maker. You are creative oh woman. Look up! There is hope. Let go of the past and move forward! Let love lead

P.S

Love Amede💖